Bruh My Fade's Better Than Yours

Thanai is back!....and yes with short hair!

This post title is a response to anyone with an opinion that a girl has to look a certain way to be liked or to be taken seriously..especially to the opposite sex. So to any guy/girl..specifically guy.. who is reading this post and has any negative thoughts as to why I have cut my hair or have automatically been given the impression of a stereotype in regards to my gender, sexuality.. BLAH BLAH BLAH

Comment below and I'll happily give you my barber's number cuzzzzz  Bruh My Fade Is Better Than Yours!

Now that is clear, let's get into the W's - What, Why, When, Who?

I cut the mane on the 24th September which was London Fashion Weekender. Now, I have been wanting to cut my hair for the last two years but for some reason I just couldn't bring myself to do it. People told me I looked better with long hair. And I got this disgusting stigma in my head that I would never look beautiful with minimal hair, my hair was my beauty. Until one day, I came to an epiphany from one of my idols India Arie - I am NOT my Hair! As well as that reason, my hair was damaged for a while and I kept convincing myself it wasn't because it had come such a long way. Nevertheless, it was broken..kind of like my self love and confidence.

Us girls, in particularly in my case, us Darker Skinned girls struggle to find our beauty as we are told we can't wear certain things or look a certain way because our skin tone won't allow it. We are suppose to accept that we will never be as beautiful as our lighter skin tones. And then obviously we are pressured as black women to conform the kinks in our Fros to straight wavier textures by the way of creamy crack (relaxer).

So I woke up one day and said NO.

NO I do not want my life to be governed by my hair.

NO I do not want to conform to what society deems a girl should look like or what beauty is.

I define beauty.

I came to realisation that my hair doesn't showcase the person I am inside. And I would like to think I'm a pretty darn good person..SOMETIMES!

I took myself down to Cut Throat Barbers in Peckham...yes Peckham! Although this barbers was quite pricey in comparison to the normal barbers on the highstreet, I really appreciated the experience especially for my first time going to a barbers to get my hair cut. I was met by Steve who took my coat, sat me in the chair, I was offered a drink and then he consulted me on what I wanted to do with my hair. He really put me at ease and took time detangling my mane. He shaped my fro and went through the different levels I could go to on the sides and back of my hair. When I saw my hair fall to the floor, I wasn't said but I got a burst of excitement. I was relieved to get rid of it. I never felt so confident. So I paid, strolled home - not caring who saw me. Why? Because I was redefining my beauty.

So that is my story! Kinks & All! 

I hope I have empowered all you women out there. Whether it is cutting your hair short or any other change, embrace it. And if somebody has something to say, send them my way!

Until Next Time xx